Eminem Was Wrong

The year was 2002. I was a senior playing football for the Peru State Bobcats. In October, Eminem dropped a hit titled, “Lose Yourself”. I can only imagine college football locker rooms across the country filled with young men getting hype listening to the chorus below…

You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime…

…football players listening to the lyrics above believed each game was “the moment” and each play was the “one shot”. You didn’t dare “miss your chance” because each game and play was a “once in a lifetime” opportunity. No room for mistakes. It was all or nothing.

I can’t even tell you the number of times I listened to this song throughout my senior year of football and the subsequent days, weeks, months and years to follow.

Fifteen years later, “Lose Yourself” still fires me up, but the game has changed as has the meaning I find in the song. In 2002 the game was football. Today the “game” is being the best elementary school principal I can be.

School has started or will start soon for educators around the country. Our campus (Sigler Elementary) sets to embark on week two and this song has been on repeat in my mind and admittedly on my running playlist for over a year. Each time I listen, I know “Eminem was Wrong”.

Rewind back to the beginning of the 2016-2017 school year. Social emotional learning was all the rage and as the leader of Sigler Elementary, I was going to be sure we were doing our part to equip our students with the tools they needed to support their social emotional well-being. Over the summer we had meticulously planned for and created “calm-down baskets” for each teacher upon their return. The baskets included something for every type of learner; play-doh, smelling stickers, windmills, stress balls, color books, glitter bottles, pipe cleaners, bubbles, yoga cards with a variety of poses…I could keep going. These “calm-down baskets” were legit.

Like most back to school weeks the days fill up quickly and the hours slip away. We strategic filled the buckets, passed them out and welcomed the teachers back with this great surprise. Teachers were asked to use these tools and strategies with students throughout the course of the school year to help our children. There was just one problem. I spent all of two minutes explaining what was in the “calm-down baskets” and zero time explaining how each could be used effectively. I did not explicitly say this, but looking back I essentially gave our teachers a resource and expected them to use it…like “Duh”! What was I thinking?

It did not take long for me to realize the errors of my way. I had “the moment”, I took my “one shot” and I totally “missed my chance”. Thankfully in education, it is not all or nothing. There is room for mistakes and this “once in a lifetime” opportunity gets reset each August.

Clearly I do not wake up in the morning and try to make as many mistakes as I can knowing I can erase them all a year later. We are influencing the lives of students for heavens sake. The message that needs to be understood is that through reflection and intentional planning we can learn from the errors of our ways and not make the same mistakes twice. Hence my argument for why “Eminem was Wrong”.

I knew when the 2017-2018 school year started I had to redeem myself. The first step to redemption, I had to “own it”. I stood before my staff and told them I “missed my chance” but realized it and was not going to miss “the moment” again. This year teachers again will receive resources to support students with their social emotional learning, but they will not come all at once and they will not come in a basket. Instead, one by one teachers will be introduced to a simple and easy to use resource that can positively be used with students in their classrooms.

I have grown as an administrator and my outlook on being wrong has changed significantly. In fact, I was never focused on being wrong. I was focused on trying to be right. I operated from a place of “I can’t make mistakes.” Now,  I’ve come to expect mistakes on a regular basis and realize if I’m not making mistakes, I’m not doing something right. I would spend my days trying to do it right and now I spend parts of my days righting my wrongs.

If I am challenging myself to be at my best, mistakes will happen. If I remain in the comfort zone, mistakes are easy to avoid, but that is not what I want for myself. I want to challenge myself and be wrong, understand mistakes are going to happen, but most importantly realize when I make them, reflect and learn from them.

This school year I will “own it” when the mistakes come. I will “let it go” and then I will take my next “one shot” because in this awesome profession, which I get to call a job, the opportunities impact students for a lifetime!

Thank goodness “Eminem was Wrong”.